I was born in South Africa to parents of Indian heritage, but grew up in Australia and followed the very traditional path of a migrant kid - I made school and uni my life and always aimed for what I thought I should be. This was often based on what made my parents happy and what I needed to feel like I fit in.

It took an astronomic wave of change in the form of a rock-bottom hitting burnout experience as a management consultant, combined with a relationship ending and unexpectedly moving home - all at the same time - for me to realise that I wasn’t really enjoying my life. This was really hard to accept at first. I was doing well at everything that was expected of me, but also the decisions I made were based on stubborn patterns of thinking that formed when I was a little kid… and really hard to rewire.

I had a really tough inner voice, that got me places, but not where I belonged. The voice guided me to do things it had learnt I should, not what I actually wanted to do. I also had to learn how to communicate my needs, as I often would put the needs of others first at the expense of my own self-respect, showing little compassion to myself.

Since listening to myself and letting that guide what I want, I found my tribe and  realised that I am actually a really sensitive person who feels all the feels. Whilst at times this can make for an interesting experience, I have never experienced joy in my life like I do now. I also realised there are a tonne of experiences and a version of me waiting to be discovered.

I’ve learnt to see my experience as an opportunity to support others in similar situations. My journey led me to understand that I am the gatekeeper and regulator of my thoughts and this ultimately controls my experiences. Whilst I am still on a path of discovery, my hope is to share my experiences in a way where change is obvious and accessible to all.